Can you help me?


#1

I have certain issues on the masturbation being a sin area. So somewhere 1 year ago i discovered masturbation. First i didn't know what it was but quickly i started doing it like 2 or 3 times a day for a year and i never felt guilty or dirty or anything and around a month from now i found out that masturbation is a sin. I asked on yahooanswers if it is a sin and i got mixed thoughts about if it is or not. And i researched it a little and it said that Jesus said that lust is a sin. I also found this articles that said that it is not a sin so i kinda dealed with it not being a sin and did it one more time. And after that i felt so guilty i quickly asked for forgiveness. Then i asked God in my prayers to tell me in my dreams or something like that if it truly is a sin. And on saturday and sunday in my dreams i asked my religion teachers about their thinking on lust but i never got to the masturbation question(i always woke up first). And i haven't masturbated for a long time but i have this urge and everytime i watch a movie with kissing scenes i have a problem to resist. I am also really depressed lately because i cannot masturbate anymore. What do you think i should do? I would also like to ask if it is lust to fantasize because on this article it says that lust is and desire not an fantasize. I will copy this article here:

The most pertinent scripture in this discussion is Matt 5:28.

whosoever looketh on a woman to lust (epithumeo) after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (KJV)

The NIV translates this verse,

anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

The NIV's is an unfortunate translation because the word epithumeo appearing in the verse is a verb (to lust) not an adverb (lustfully). The operative word is not look, but lust. Jesus is not talking about how a man looks at the woman or thinks about a woman, but about a man lusting after a woman (looking being an instrument of lusting). That makes a world of a difference in the true meaning of the verse, the true meaning intended by Jesus. He is addressing lust not fantasy.

In Matt. 5:28, I do not believe Jesus was speaking to teenagers who were at their sexual peak and were entertaining many erotic fantasies. That simply does not fit the context of the sermon on the mount. It is hardly likely that Jesus, in the middle of his tirade against the Pharisees, would throw a punch at teenagers. He was primarily addressing married men who had desires for women other than their wives. That same desire should have been directed toward their own wives (Prov. 5:19, 20). The lust Jesus spoke of was a determined desire to attain some outside woman, not a mere fantasy. Some of the Jews divorced their wives for this very reason. The very desire to do it was as bad as the act itself, Jesus said.

What do you think?What should i do? Is this statement that lust is the desire not the fantasy true?Thank you all.


#2

Hi,

The Church teaches that masturbation is a mortal sin and that one can be happy without it.
The following link will give you the reasons:

chastity.com/chastity-qa/pornography-etc/masturbation/whats-wrong-with-ma

You are in our prayers.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.


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