Please help – I have an internal conflict that I can’t resolve. I’ve been married almost 20 years. About 9 months ago I discovered that my husband has been cheating on me with prostitutes since at least 2003 (probably longer), and with an old flame (who is married) since 2006. I filed for divorce, facing the fact that the marriage is unsalvageable, and my heart is broken. My conflict is this: my entire life (since childhood) has been about protecting others, especially children and those who are very vulnerable. It’s the reason I went into social work as a profession. Many of the “escorts” my husband slept with were underage. My heart tells me that I have to share what I know with the authorities to try to protect these young girls from men like my husband. But to do that risks that my husband would be arrested and my 13 y/o son would then know. I don’t want him to know what his dad does, I can’t imagine the damage it could do to him. But if I say nothing and do nothing, knowing that my husband continues to pay to have sex with teenage girls, how can I live with the damage he is causing to them? Isn’t it a sin for me to have this knowledge and do nothing to try to intervene to help them? If I know that a man is using young girls for sex and do nothing about it, am I not contributing to the problem?
Please help – I don’t know what God wants me to do with this burden and the stress is affecting my health. I can’t sleep, I cry all the time, my hair is falling out. How do I balance out the greater good vs. doing what’s best for my son? And if I do nothing, how can I live with that?