I will ask my question again…perhaps AAA did not answer my question because of the nature of the problem…so I will rephrase it.
How do I end an affair with a person who is poor in spirit and financially poor and who has come to see me as a father figure who provides her basic necessities?? I realize that I may very well be a crutch and that she must take responsibility for her own life. But, that said, I did help her escape a very bad situation - human trafficking is a terrible thing - most people cannot imagine the misery and destroyed lives. She is 27 years old, lives in poverty with no real prospect of getting married and having a loving husband and family of her own; and she was abandoned by her father. I have repeatdly tried to convince her to change her life with education and try to build a career with the hope she would find a new life and meet a good man who loves her and who would take my place. And, I admit, although my heart is willing the flesh is weak - over the past several years I have visitied her 1 to 3 times a year. But, the other side of the coin is this…if I end the relationship, she will most likely return to her old self-destructive lifestyle. If something bad happens to her I will never forgive myself because I am in a position, good or bad, to help her. Yes, she is most likely manipulating me from one degree to another. But what would you expect from a person who has next to nothing? She is still a human being. There is good and bad in everyone -she is basically a good perso - women do not willingly prostitute themselves - they do it out of necessity to escape a miserable existance. How can I refuse a hand to a drowning person? I cannot help the whole world but I can help her. I was born/raised a Catholic. Yes, I’ve fallen away. Yes, I want to return to the Church and be true to my wife. But, life is not black and white. This is a dilemna that I cannot find an answer to no matter how much I read Scripture or research. If AAA does not want to help me what is the point of trying to follow the Church?? Perhaps, it is better to be a good pagan then a bad Catholic?? Please help me.