A friend of a friend possibly has cancer for the second time. She’s several weeks pregnant. I talked to our mutual friend, mentioning things like cancer treatment being allowed even during pregnancy, and how depending on the cancer she could continue her pregnancy.
Today I found out she had an abortion.
Our mutual friend didn’t feel it his place to say too much. I feel like I should have said more to him, made it clearer what was ‘allowed’ as far as her options. He’s generally pro-life, he talked to her a little, but didn’t push her. She hasn’t had the best history, and of several previous pregnancies only one made it to term. She worries about her cancer spreading again… the situation is just horrible from all sides. I suppose an abortion made sense in a way if she was thinking of her first child and being alive for them. Neither she, nor our friend, is Catholic (or Christian).
I… I feel like I should have said more. I feel guilty, culpable. I’m worried about my friend, and for his friend especially because this is a tragedy in any way you look at it. I can’t stand feeling like, in addition to everything else, there may be souls on the line as well. It was too easy to just say ‘cancer treatment is allowed, principal of double effect’ and assume that’s what would happen. The doctor probably said it would be easier treated without a pregnancy or… I don’t know. I wasn’t there. I should have said more.
Please pray for everyone involved.