Caring for terminally ill parent and dealing with an eating disorder

Hi everyone. My mother was recently diagnosed with a neurodegenerative brain disease for which there is no cure and no treatment. It produces rapidly progressing dementia like symptoms, as well as other neurological symptoms such as myoclonus. Patients eventually become bed ridden before slipping into a coma. She has been given about three months to live. We are all in shock, but try to play it normal, so she doesn’t have to experience anymore emotional distress than she’s already going through. Her memory of who I am is on and off at the moment, but she doesn’t remember my dad at all - she thinks he is her father who passed away in 2008. It’s heartbreaking watching her deteriorate like this, and to see how frightened she is, not being able to recognize her surroundings. Moreover, my father just recently got out of the hospital with a broken hip and pelvis; he also has a broken arm that needs to be surgically repaired, which he is putting off, because he wants to be here for my mom’s last days.

I am currently caring for both of them as best I can. I’d do anything for them and I am happy to be here to help them out in their time of need. But I’ve been battling depression, and I have recently come to grips with the fact that I probably have an eating disorder, which is exacerbated by extreme stress. Eating is hard to do for extended periods of time where I’ll obsess over my weight, won’t eat much, and will lose pounds very quickly. And then I’ll have days where I’ll be so stressed that I’ll binge eat, feel guilty afterwards, and the cycle will start all over again. The thought that I am 26 and already losing my mother is a very hard pill to swallow.

Please pray for my family…especially my parents. Please pray that my mom has peace in her last days, and that my father gets the medical help he needs for his physical ailments.

Thank you and God bless you all.

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Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless, and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible,
look kindly upon us, and increase your mercy in us,
that in difficult moments, we might not despair nor become despondent,
but with great confidence, submit ourselves to your holy will,
which is love and Mercy itself.
Amen…

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Prayers for you and your parents in this extremely tough period.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

Prayer for a Miracle

God of all creation, you who spoke a simple command and brought forth light from
the darkness, I ask you now to send forth your miracle-working power to heal ( cjsm93 and her Mother). You cleansed the lepers, opened the eyes of the blind and by
speaking a simple command, you empowered the crippled to rise up and walk.
You sent forth your life-giving power to all those in need, including those you raised from
the dead. I ask you to send forth your healing power into cjsm93 and her Mother’s body and give him the strength to fight his illness. I ask this through my Lord, Jesus Christ, your Son, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, for ever and ever. Amen

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Praying for you and your parents. I’m sorry you and your family are going through this… Praying God will bless and guide you through this difficult time and surround you and your parents with his angels to help you in all ways.

O Blessed Archangel Gabriel, we beseech thee, do thou intercede for us at the throne of divine Mercy in our present necessities, that as thou didst announce to Mary the mystery of the Incarnation, so through thy prayers and patronage in heaven we may obtain the benefits of the same, and sing the praise of God forever in the land of the living. Amen.:latin_cross:

Watch, O Lord, with those who wake, or watch, or weep tonight, and give your angels charge over those who sleep. Tend your sick ones, O Lord Christ. Rest your weary ones. Bless your dying ones. Soothe your suffering ones. Pity your afflicted ones. Shield your joyous ones. And for all your love’s sake.
Amen.:latin_cross:
(St. Augustine)

My Lord, as these people are walking through fields that are rough with grief and care, may they have the courage to continue on to the smooth pastures, where they may walk with comfort and peace. May they not let the weariness and sorrow that may come to their heart today dwarf their hope and enjoyment of the future.
Amen.:pray:

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I pray that the Lord heals your mom and dad. May He also help you get the necessary nutrients out of food. I pray that He relieves you of a possible eating disorder and that He relieves you of stress. Amen.

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I pray for peace and consolation for you and your family at this time. I pray that God leads you to get help to deal with what you suspect to be an eating disorder. I pray for deliverance for you. I pray that any fear and anxiety that is plaguing you will be replaced with perfect peace and trust in God’s provision for you and your family. I pray that in the midst of your difficulties you will be keenly aware of God’s love for you and that you will feel secure and comforted knowing that you and your family are resting in the palm of His hands.
May God’s everlasting love and healing mercy strengthen you and deliver you. May you grow in strength and courage. May God bless you abundantly as you continue to care for your parents. Mother Mary please pray for these intentions. Amen

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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.

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Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

O dear Jesus, I humbly implore You to grant Your special graces to this family. May their home be the shrine of peace, purity, love, labor and faith. I beg You, dear Jesus, to protect and bless all of them, absent and present, living and dead.

O Mary, loving Mother of Jesus, and our Mother, pray to Jesus for this family, for all the families of the world, to guard the cradle of the newborn, the schools of the young and their vocations.

Blessed Saint Joseph, holy guardian of Jesus and Mary, assist them by your prayers in all the necessities of life. Ask of Jesus that special grace which He granted to you, to watch over their home at the pillow of the sick and the dying, so that with Mary and with you, heaven may find their family
unbroken in the Sacred Heart of Jesus.

Amen.:latin_cross:

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Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.


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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.


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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.


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Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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A Prayer for Family Caregivers

Come to me, all you who labor and are bur-
dened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke
upon you and learn from me, for I am meek and
humble of heart; and you will find rest for your-
selves. For my yoke is easy, and my burden
light.
(Matthew 11:28-30)

Healer of souls and comforter of the weary,
help to lighten the burden of families who are
caring for their sick loved ones. Accompany
them on their journey and ease their anxiety
and fears. Surround them with the love and
strength of others, so they may experience
the healing presence of the Communion
of Saints. We ask this through the intercession
of Our Lady of Lourdes and in the name of
Jesus. Amen.

Prayer to St. Dymphna

Lord, our God, You graciously chose St. Dymphna
as patroness of those afflicted with mental, emotional,
and nervous disorders. She is thus an inspiration and
a symbol of charity to the thousands who ask her
intercession.

We beg You, Lord, to hear St. Dymphna’s prayers
on their behalf. Grant them relief and consolation
to all suffering such trials – especially @cjsm93,
who has an eating disorder. Please fill them with
hope and grant them the cure they so desire.

We ask this through Christ our Lord, who suffered
agony in the garden. Amen.

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Thank you all so much for your prayers! My aunt took my mother to a homeopath today who has been successful in helping other terminally ill patients. She gave my mom some herbs to try and for the first time in at least two months, my mother has peace and she hasn’t been exhibiting as many symptoms. Today she knew we were at home. She knew who my father and I were. I am not sure what to believe yet since it’s so early but I am feeling so emotional, and of course, grateful to God that she can rest peacefully at the moment. Thank you all again so much for keeping her in your prayers, and please continue to do so! Praying for a miracle. Through God, anything is possible. God bless you all.

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I pray that the Lord heals your parents and that He relieves you of depression and the eating disorder. Amen.

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O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fountain of Mercy for us, I trust in You!

Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil, Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen.

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world. x10

Holy God, Holy Mighty One, Holy Immortal One, have mercy on us and on the whole world.


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Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen

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