I have a long story but I will start with the main point first: I am a new Catholic and God says that we must not have sex before marriage or lust at all etc. but yet most Catholics are very liberal - including my girlfriend. I am from the UK and I have been in an internet relationship with my girlfriend who lives in America. She is very passionate and loves exploring life - she's also very kind too. She says that she is a very liberal Catholic - now I have no idea what that means I just know that there are mortal sins and God says in the bible that nobody has a right to sin. My girlfriend say that she is, 'not so freaked out about the ''sex'' rules.' She says that if you love someone you should let them know how much you care for them in every way in which love takes you. she also says,
'i respect myself, yet don't mind trusting someone who i love with the love i give them.'
My girlfriend seems to be a type of Catholic that is 'very liberal', like she says, and to also run on emotion and feelings rather than as she sates herself, '''sex'' rules'.
So I just want to know what you think of my girlfriend?
She is a very passionate woman and she loves exploring the world and she is the best in her field with her career, but I know that all that matters is God and what He thinks. She is running her life through emotions and God said that we must follow by His rules and we go to Hell if we die in a state of mortal sin. Also, God says that nobody has a right to sin and all we have to say is 'yes or no' to decisions in our lives. God also said that anything other than yes or no is from the evil one.
So by looking at how my girlfriend, of 7.5 months who I've never met in person yet but will in June, is clearly being misled by as God states 'the evil one.' She is basing her life on something that is not as God puts it 'yes or no', she is twisting it so that it is about emotions.
Now about my life:
My father is a very angry man and he did not work hard at school, he is from a rural farm in England. We therefore grew up in the ghetto because my father was poor so I've had a pretty tough life, whereas my girlfriend has lived a high standard of life and God does state that it is more difficult for a rich person to enter God's Kingdom than it is a poor man. So I have had a trememdous life in respects of having more of an opportunity to enter Heaven :) Also, my mom is a very devout Catholic :) My parents also don't go out of the house much. I also don't go out of the house much because I am working really hard with my job and studying - I will be an MBA graduate in a couple of years.
So I had two parents who had different belief systems and I didn't know what to stand for in life. All I liked doing was making people happy. I didn't work hard during school until the age of 16 because I ws making people laugh! I thought that if nobody knew what was going on in the world I might as well make them laugh! So I was the funniest guy in the school and stuff... :) But then i found myself in the real world and life was extremely tough and I realised that you had to work hard... I couldn't believe how hard you had to work! :) I realised also that there was not so much love in the world like me making everyone laugh at school...
I was also not one of those guys that chased girls and had sex with them from bars... I felt quite isolated because every guy was doing it and I thought that this was no way to live a life...
So I was in a world where I had to work hard... and there didn't appear to be much love in the world and I was depressed. I felt like I wanted to not exist a lot of the time. I knew that even though I was going through so much pain that I can still do some good with my life. I heard many women saying that guys were horrible and treated them badly, a lot of women said that they couldn't even find a good guy and I know many that had given up. So I thought that I could make a woman happy who wanted something from this crazy world, so that is when I started using my intelligence to become a highly-qualified individual and support a family i.e. give a woman who just wants a nice guy what she wants as I didn't need/want anything.
So I ended up dating women and to be honest it was really pointless... I mean I felt like I was going through the motions... I mean what do they stand for in life? I thought that could udnerstand these guys treat girls like **** because they are so boring and this is like going through the motions... I wanted more and more and more... I searched for some kind of reason to be great in this world... I did not want to go through the motions... so I thought that I might as well do the best possible for my future children that I would bring into this insane world. This world judges people for many different things like beauty, height, wealth etc. so I set up a check-list for my new mrs and once I had that sorted out at least I knew that I did my best for my kids :) my check-list was:
- dark because of global warming (don't laugh!)
- and hard-working