I have a question regarding arousal. Is it a sin to any degree to experience arousal when it is NOT directly sought out, NOR dwelled upon?
My fiancé and I spent some time this weekend together and during our time, we would cuddle up close, hug, hold hands, exchange kisses on the cheeks and just goof around, like play fighting and tickling. I am a very affectionate person it comes to my fiancé and I just like to express my love to him in this way.
Sometimes during our time together, if we are cuddled up close or if I notice a certain change in him, I might ask, “are you aroused?” And If he responds “yes”, then I stop whatever we are doing. If the answer is “no” then we are good. Also a few times during our time together, I would find myself mildly aroused after being close. When this happened, I would somewhat remove myself from him and then allow the feelings to pass.
Arousal was NOT sought out during our time together, and if it did happen, then it was NOT dwelt upon. Throughout our time together I actively resisted any feelings of arousal. None the less, I’m not entirely sure of what the Catholic view on this is, and if we sinned in any way.