Years ago in the town where we used to live, I had a good friend. Our children were the same age, we went to the same parish, and we seemed to have a lot in common. I continued to see her about once a year after we moved, but I was becoming rather disenchanted with her. Her main - sometimes sole - topic of conversation was how awful her siblings were.
When my mother died in 2004, I called this friend to let her know. She wasn’t in so I left a message on her answering machine. I didn’t expect her to come to the funeral as she didn’t know my mother, but I thought I would hear from her.
But there was no card, no phone call - nothing. I did not contact her again.
Fast forward to earlier this year. She sent out a mass e-mail letting everyone know how wonderfully her mother is doing & that her mom was moving in with her. That is the ONLY e-mail I’ve recieved from her in in the past 9 years.
Through the grapevine, I heard that she was wondering why she hadn’t heard from me. Of course, I could say the same!
Ever since the e-mail from her, I’ve been wondering if I should just write her off as an ex-friend, or if I should let her know how hurt I was. And still am, really.
Unless she’s changed, I don’t want to be friends with her again, but it would be nice to hear an apology.
I’m thinking I should just write her off - it has been 9 years! - and offer up the hurt feelings. God knows I’ve likely treated others as shabbily.
What opinions am I offered?