The Catholic Church teaches that men and women are different but where does this teaching end and gender stereotypes begin?
My ’ inspiration’ for this post is the recent thread about “refusal” of sex in marriage and daycare as a grave matter.
There were so many concerns in that thread that I wouldn’t know where to start but one thing that was unnoticed was the gender stereotyping.
There seemed to potentially be reinforcement by some that men are more sexually interested then women and that women would be more likely to refuse sex due to tiredness,headaches,generally disinterested etc…
and that men are more likely to bond through lovemaking and perceive the “refusal” as a personal rejection.
What I wonder is is this a Catholic viewpoint that men and women are like that,or is this more of a gender stereotype that only some people are like?
Personally,I am not yet married and I am quite anti feminism,I believe that men and women are different
but I also have a healthy sex drive and don’t fit the old stereotype of a woman who is turned on by her husband doing the dishes,vacuuming etc.
It’s the old stereotype “men need sex and women need love”
There was even an American book written with this title I think.
Do you agree that this stereotype is factual or not factual?
Do all men perceive being turned down sex (in marriage) as a rejection?
Regarding the refusal (in marriage) of sex itself, and “owning each other’s bodies”, obviously most priests must know this is controversial topic in today’s society as I’ve never heard any priests talk this topic here (Australia).
I think they are being prudent because they are aware it could be perceived a certain way,considered that there are already women worldwide still who are at the receiving end of sexual violence or coercion.
Could this mentality even turn sex into an idol?
I came across this article which although is not Catholic I think it is well written.