First time posting. This forum is a great resource.*
My dear Catholic girlfriend of three years has expressed that she wants to continue our relationship as friends. This came after a month of time apart to discover what we want for ourselves individually.We are both 24 going on 25 this year.
*I come from a family with no faith and I was raised without one although felt that there was a God, a greater presence in this universe. She was raised catholic and wishes to have a spiritual connection with her partner.
She introduced me to the faith in a very loving, caring, gentle way. She never forced or imposed anything on me and I have come to see that the faith is what I would like in my life. We have a pure relationship (non-sexual) and I always respect her beliefs, values, and body.*
Shes shared many books and prayers with me. But I was not immediately drawn to the subject matter. I did not have that connection with the faith nor the understanding. Recently I've started learning about Jesus, his life, and his teachings and everything made so much more sense to me. I can see why she values her faith so much now. It was as if my journey had been illuminated.*
During our time apart I've come to the realization that I do want this as part of my life. I do want to share this faith with her. I do wish to lead her in the faith and be the strong catholic man she deserves. I now desire to read the books she shared with me. I've begun attending rcia classes. Doing research to better understand Catholicism.*
Unfortunately it took me three years to get to this point. Three years of tremendous faith, patience, and struggle on her part. I'm so thankful for that. During this time apart she really strengthened her relationship with her church community and really desires to continue growing spiritually. She is proud of my recent actions but also knows that it will take more time for us to be on the same page spiritually. She has distanced herself from me and is drawn to her community who can help her grow spiritually. Of course something I can't provide at this point but wish to someday.*
She says that she is happy about my faith journey and will always support me. She says she will never give up on me and my conversion but may have to let go of our relationship.*
It pains me deeply that she wishes to move on at the same time I'm making strides to join the faith and establish that spiritual connection with her. I truly love her and wish to marry her and raise a catholic family together. Something she is very adamant about.*
I feel like all I can do is continue praying. Did I bring this upon myself? Is this better for the both of us? Can we do anything to save our relationship?
I truly appreciate your advice and prayers. Thank you for reading.*