[quote="yellowdaisy, post:18, topic:216516"]
Well I think I know SOME of whats going on here, because we have the same problem. Except in reverse.
My husband is more extremely Catholic than I am (daily mass when he can, militant about weekly confession, etc). We are both very conservative and both very devout, but he would absolutely sacrifice family time for extra church time.
This is ENTIRELY. MY. PROBLEM.
His devotion makes me feel guilty and inferior about my own-- like he's rubbing my face in how holy he is.
BUT HE DOESNT DO THAT AT ALL!
He doesnt rub his holiness in my face-- hes not preachy (often :)), hes not judgemental, etc.
But my own guilt and complacency makes me feel that way. I know in my head AND my heart that this issue is MY issue-- but it still bothers me that he drops everything to get to that Saturday confession.
I think your husband needs a little self-examination about why your devotion is so annoying for him. Only when we recognize our problem can we take steps to fix it!
Thank you for your perspective. It could have something to do with it.
Yes I am a former Baptist and I guess I do have zeal ha ha. My mother is a convert and is very zealous as well.
He has made comments in the past that he doesn't understand why I have to do things with the Church, like why would I go out of my way to do things for the Church, etc. He is very complacent with the way he has been doing things.
I really did not intend to make him feel inferior. I do get caught up in things in regards to the Church and find myself wishing I could be at Mass instead of at work. I don't mean to ignore him or make him feel bad but it looks like I do.
He does need to recognize some things about himself, so hopefully with patience, we can come to an agreement. If necessary I think he would be willing to meet with our priest for counseling for starters.
Thank you all for your prayers. This wasn't an issue really until AFTER we were married and moved in together. I think I was so used to having a lot of private time to myself for prayer and church activities and he thought that once we were married we would spend ALL of our time together.
My personality requires private time and his requires constant entertainment and interaction. I guess that is what marriage is all about, figuring each other out and fixing problems along the way.
I will def keep counseling in mind and if the direct approach does not work I will take the next step. I really appreciate all of you!