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I think with the divorce rate, a lot of people would rather be single than risk being divorced.
I can only speak for myself. And since I only lived in my time I can not say if it is different now a days but personally this is what I suspect.
I feel like I am stuck between 2 different mentalities. On the one hand I am modern, ie capable of taking care of myself as a single woman. So when a man promises me the moon I see through it. Back in the days where women did not get educated, when a man would say 'I am going to work at (insert job) and make enough money so that you can have (insert whatever)' a woman had no way of telling if it was true. Any man I ever dated I knew how much money he earned so when he would say 'I want to but a house' I knew darn well whether of not he could afford it and never fell for it
Disclosure: I did not hold low income against him, I held the fact he wouldn't live within his means against him
On the other hand, I am a traditional in that I want the man to be the main bread winner and I be the main housekeeper (with a bit of sharing of roles on both sides)
Well.... that is a contradiction and I feel since I can't have it both ways, it makes sense that I am single
The problem with your view is that you will only attract two type's of men, the traditionalist like yourself or the dominant male who can use his salary against you in that you rely on him to survive, some men like to use this to take a authoritarian position in the household and often treat their wive's as object's for their own pleasure or will. I believe yes the man is the head and the women the heart but due to women decade's ago flooding into the job market our economy has changed dramatically. There was a time whenever a man earning a minimum wage could sustain a household simply because this was how it had to be. Today even two people working will find it difficult at time's to do this therefore the household has become much more reliant on women working. I agree it's unfortunate but the feminist's cried about it so now youn's have it. The economy has now made the traditional family impossible whether we like it or not
G.K Chesterton i think explain's it very well: The basic problem of feminism is the misconception that men and women are equal. It may come as a shock to some people, but there is in fact a difference between men and women. Chesterton says, "The difference between man and woman accounts for almost everything important that has happened. We must realize that when we try to make man and woman alike." He says that of the two sexes, the woman is in the more powerful position. The woman controls the home, that fundamental unit of society. If you control the home, you control society. Chesterton says, "When I think of the power of woman, my knees knock under me." Ironically, the feminists, by giving up their power in the home, gave up all their power. When they moved into the workplace, most women certainly became like most men in that they became wage slaves, but they did not gain anything, and they certainly did not gain power. It was a distinct step downward. "What is called the economic independence of women is the same as what is called the economic wage-slavery of men."Feminists lost the privilege of raising their children to a day-care industry or a public school. Or they did something even worse: they killed their children.
- Dale Ahlquist on G K Chesterton