I’m a first time poster, but have stumbled upon this site many times during my Googling.
Here it is: 3 weeks ago, I met the girl I’m supposed to spend the rest of eternity with. Plain and simple. [Please, whether or not you agree this is possible, is not the topic for conversation; the question stems from this *fact.]
I plan on being engaged in another 3 weeks or so (ring shopping is stressful). I want to be married shortly after that. I am a devout Catholic, but I simply will not wait 6 months to get married. That makes a US Catholic marriage unavailable to me. I still would really really like to have a Catholic marriage, and so we’re looking abroad. Does anyone know of a country where a priest will marry two individuals who have only been engaged for a short period of time? *
If nothing international is available, I plan to throw myself at the mercy of the Cardinal or one of the other bishops in my diocese and hope that they will waive the waiting period. If that fails, I will likely have a legal ceremony followed by a religious ceremony. I realize that that conflicts with the Church, and I might have to resign from my duties as a lector and one of the Church leaders, but I have found the woman the Lord intends me to be with, and I will not wait an extra second to be with her.
Any input would be greatly appreciated. I’m sure some of you will read this and think “Shame on you for trying to circumvent the rules.” Please, allow me to save you the time and energy of writing that—obviously, I just did. Also, some of you might kindly encourage me to a longer engagement. I appreciate your views and input, but that simply will not happen. I promise all of you that this is the truest of love meant to bind two souls for eternity. I will not let well-intentioned rules keep us apart.
Any help from you geniuses would be greatly greatly appreciated.
Edit: I should add, the future wife is on board with raising children Catholic, Mass on Sundays, and happy to convert. She comes from a background of weak religion, and is Methodist more by birth than anything else.*