A quick back story. I am a practising Catholic. I am marrying a girl who has, by happen chance, been baptised but not raised as a Catholic and is profoundly agnostic. She has accompanied me to Church of late but does not participate. She is happy that any offspring be raised as Catholics.
I am a serving soldier in the Army - which I am shortly leaving - and so do not know the parish priest of the place where we have bought a house together, and wherein we intend to live upon marriage.
I have stipulated that the marriage or service must be a Catholic one. My gf is content with this but is adament we should be married in the Protestant church in the village. She does this on the grounds of aesthetics and of the fact that this is where we will be living, as to her denominations are irrelevant. It is worth pointing out that prior to the reformation the Church was a Catholic one.
The vicar of the church in which we hope to marry has given us the thumbs up. He says that we are ok to have a Catholic mass and a Catholic wedding service. However, from what I can make out, she says that for legal reasons he would have to oversee the vows and signing of the book. **Question 1: would this compromise the validity of the sacrament?
** I approached the local parish priest, who due to a coincidence of diocesan is actually fairly removed from our village. He represented my case to the diocesan tribunal, who he then informed me have rejected the petition. This was on the grounds that we were both baptised Catholics. However, this does not reflect the reality of the situation, where I have been bought up practising and believing and my fiance has had no connection with the Church and considers her baptism a curiosity made to placate dead relatives, and not imparted on her subsequent sisters. I am trying to bring her round to the faith, but this knee jerk reaction has made her consider officially renouncing her baptism as she now considers it an impediment of what, from her perspective, is a very reasonable request. This is clearly not what I want nor what is good for her or the Catholic church. Question 2: how can I make a formal representation for myself? Is there any way i can appeal this decision? Do you consider this decision to be fair and just? Are there other examples of Catholic services being carried out in Protestant churches**
I hope you can spare the time to give me some advice as this threatens to be very harmful for both our relationship and her attitude towards Catholicims at a crucial time in our relationship, and could have big ramifications down the line, paricularly as elements of her family are quite unfavourably disposed towards the Faith and will use this to back up their viewpoint.**