[quote="mamabear3, post:1, topic:194024"]
Why do i feel there is no where to go inside the church to find healing from sexual abuse? My veiws on sexuality and forgiveness as a catholic are the two things that help me get though this healing process. But I've come to a road block, i need a good cathoic support group or something and can't find one. Does anyone else feel like this? I think it is time for a new movement in the church, we need to reach out and help our brothers and sisters in Christ who have gone through the nightmare of sexual abuse.
P.S. I am talking about sexal abuse of any form not just people who have been abused by preists.
Each soul is unique and has unique needs. Personally, the support groups I attended were of no help in healing -- they were group wallowing and condemning parties. For me, the groups were places where the members blamed their abusers for all the problems in their lives and justified (even encouraged) one another in playing the victim in every area of their lives.
I also did therapy for many years -- and that was also a disaster. The woman was all about her own beliefs and agenda, which was to "free" people from the constraints of organized religion. In the most fragile time of my life, she ignored my real issues and convinced me I needed to uncover repressed "memories." The fallout from these bad experiences nearly caused me to lose my soul.
My point is that I do believe there is a real need for effective help for those who have experienced abuse. But this help cannot be something thrown together haphazardly, just for the sake of saying, "look we did something to help." Honestly, I don't think the Church is in a position to put together a psychologically sound network of support groups with the sort of spiritual leadership this would need.
So i see the gap, but i don't yet see the solution.