I got a call from my SIL, the one who recently reverted back to Catholicism. She took one of my NFP books with her the last time she came over to visit DH. Well, last night she calls me and asks me if I can teach her the method. :mad:
THe last time she came to our house, I convinced her that ABC was completely wrong, that all of them were abortifacients and that the CC is 100% against it. And I also mentioned that pre-marital relations were frowned upon just as in the Jehovah’s WItness “religion”. So she got off ABC and now is asking me to help her learn NFP.
There are various things that actually impede me from wanting to help her.
- She’s not married
- She’s dating a Catholic married man (who’s only married civilly)
- She already has 1 child out of wedlock
- She mocks the CC’s doctrine on morality
Another thing she said is that her “b/f” is “pulling out” so she won’t get pregnant. For God’s sake, I don’t want to hear these things!!! Especially the details! Since she’s seen I haven’t gotten pregnant with NFP, she can see it’s a safe method, but she’s looking at it as a contraceptive method instead of what it really is. The only reason DH and I are avoiding pregnancy is because we’re having marital problems and finances are very bad at the moment, my job isn’t stable any more… among a few more things.
She thinks we’re using this to avoid getting pregnant and that’s it. She doesn’t get the unitive part of it, she doesn’t get the abstinence sacrifice… she doesn’t get any of it and now she’s expecting me to teach her! :mad:
I would be committing a sin aside from the fact that I would help her sin!!! :eek: I don’t know why she expects me to help her out with her sex life. I was more open about things before I got so serious about my religion. How can I tell her I cannot teach her? She already has my book with her, isn’t that enough? It’s pretty self-explanatory. I don’t want to help anyone kill any babies or sell their souls to the devil.
What am I to do? How can I handle this situation? She’s invited herself over to our house and always says she’ll bring that man to my house (which she hasn’t yet). I already told DH I wouldn’t want that man in my house. As long as he is married to another woman and doesn’t get an annullment from that marriage, then he isn’t welcome in my house as the b/f of my SIL. I don’t want to cause trouble and certainly, I don’t want to give my SILs more reasons to dislike me. I just have better moral values than they do and they always question it and make fun of that…
I do not know how to handle this. I hate the positions she always puts me in.