What a "wonderfully" senseless dialogue. Your premise: Endless semantic debate and worries makes someone a better person and more holy or like Jesus. Your proof: You worry about pork eating and general eating rituals.
I will cease the sarcasm and give you my impression and assessment of what you are talking about and your own implied opinions.
The act of being Christian does not come from following endless rules without direction or sense for the spirit of the rules. And Christianity has the benefit of being rather simplified in the basis for its teachings. It all revolves around the idea of what Jesus and the Father would approve of if we were to ask them in person. So, this should not be such a difficult task considering the historical and evangelical/Gospel narratives which have been given to us as guidance. But, the odd thing is that I often hear Catholics squabbling about the most tedious elements of Holy Law and ignoring the most essential.
The things is you're not a Christian if you don't believe in the extreme version of charity, altruism, tolerance, honesty, love, and non-violence that Jesus taught and showed by example. There is no disputing that. So, worrying about keeping food codes is pointless if you are becoming inflamed or angry at people who oppose your point of view or, well, violating any of the essential laws and rules written out in the New Testament and the Ten Commandments.
This is a bit off the point, but I will indulge in it for a moment. So, the Laws of Moses in general were Draconian and superseded by what was passed down by our Lord on his time on Earth and written in the New Testament and many of the testaments and writings left out of the official canons. However, some of what was written in the extended form of the Ten Commandments (approx 600 commandments exist in the Old Testament) are still good principles to follow to varying degrees as long as they do not take away the spirit of humanitarianism and charity of spirit and humanity.
One of my major underlying principles in saying all of this is that you CANNOT just glean piety by rote practice of memorizing rules and following them on and off to varying degrees without analysis of the spirit of the rules and the lessons that underpin them. You are either devoted to the spirit of Christianity or you are not. It is a very black and white decision to make. You are either in or you are out. There's no on the fence when it comes to the ethics of Christianity. You can question the existence of the Divine and still be a good Christian. But, you CANNOT question the ethics of Christ if you are to be a good and moral person and Christian. That is set in stone and your own church says doing that is a mortal sin and will land you one place and one place only.
Compassion for all human beings and a very strong and tough sense of tolerance for everyone is what is needed in order to be able to practice the central tenets of the religion. Without tolerance in profound degrees for so many things in this world you will in due time turn your back on the majority of Christian teachings. Altruism is one of those central tenets. You can practice a large amount of the minor rules and codes and simultaneously adhere to none of the central tenets of Christianity. But, that's called gaming the system a church sets out for you to help you to become a better a purer person. It is a rather evil thing to do in spite of whether you feel it is forgivable or not. But, not uncommon in the United States and elsewhere.
So, in line with those ideas believing in fascistic and Machiavellian principles cannot sit in agreement with Christian piety. If someone told you or implied they could they were either lying, not paying full attention to what you were asking or talking about, or too ignorant or dull witted to pick up the nuance of the questions at hand.
In my mind and many others, you have to believe in giving up everything, including your life and soul, to good is as important a belief as raising your children to be happy or doing a good job at work. And if you put the latter things in front of the former it is almost always impossible to be an ethical person. Believing and following good must be an absolutely necessary path in your heart or you fall like Lucifer fell. It must be instinctual to say throw yourself in front of a car to save the life of a someone else or you will not have fully taken in the spirit of selflessness and Christianity.
That's my two cents, but I believe it to be true.