I recently converted to the Catholic church after being content as a self proclaimed agnostic but came from a Church of Christ protestant background. My fiance grew up Catholic and his relatives are almost all Catholic as well.
I'm wondering if anyone else had to blend two families of very different religious backgrounds during their wedding and how it turned out. If there were any issues I might want to consider bringing up before the big day or things of that nature. I do know I need to inform my family that they are not to receive the Eucharist during the Mass but that they can go up with their hands over their chest and receive a blessing (something I enjoyed as an RCIA candidate and never felt excluded but blessed to be there).
On that note, I am a little nervous about their reactions. I don't want them to feel like they are excluded from the service because they are not Catholic but for them to understand that it is a holy act that requires the commitment of being part of the Church to take part of. My mother has dropped a few hints that she thinks it's rather rude of us Catholics not to recognize other Christians during communion and I've tried to explain that it isn't about exclusion but of reverence for our Lord and Savior. I asked her if she believed it was truly the body and blood of Jesus Christ and she got highly uncomfortable and didn't want to resume the conversation.
It's making me reconsider having a full Mass for our wedding and that breaks my heart. I know it's supposed to be 'my day' and that I should 'get whatever I want' (as I've been told my mother and fiance, much to my confusion) but I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. More than just the Eucharist I know they aren't familiar with kneeling during service or singing the responsorial psalms and even though it's not a huge deal if they choose not to participate - again I feel like they will perceive being left out. They don't understand my conversion to the Catholic Church, they have never been hostile about it, they just seem confused by it and we have never been big on discussing our feelings.
Recently my mother has been pushing for us to just have an outdoor wedding. I was confirmed in the Church where I'm set to be married, I attended my first Mass with the Priest who will marry us at this Church. During the semester I go to every daily Mass I can fit into my schedule at this Church. I can't imagine being wed anywhere else and told her as much so she has now decided that we could have two ceremonies, one at the Church and a second one outdoors. I love my mother and I respect her, but I just don't know how to navigate the wedding planning with someone who doesn't see the Catholic Church and her traditions in the same way that I've come to.
I guess I'm a little long winded and I apologize, I hadn't realized how much I've been bottling up recently.:(