I wanted to honor my mother and father by having them both walk me down the aisle, but I think The Catholic Rite of Marriage suggests otherwise. Opinions please?
"The rite calls for you to process as a couple and notes that if local custom suggests, you may be escorted by your parents and your witnesses (usually the maid of honor and best man). Such flexibility is characteristic of the wedding liturgy; it allows for a good deal of cultural adaptation.
In the United States, the groom is at times left out of the procession and the bride comes in with her father. Your parish will likely permit such an arrangement, and whoever is helping you plan your wedding will direct you to local guidelines.
When planning your procession, be careful to consider the message that the order you choose communicates. It is important to recognize that every action in liturgy is symbolic.
The custom of a father “giving away” his daughter is rooted in a time when marriage was primarily an economic transaction in western culture. Women needed the income potential of a man and men needed the domestic skills that women provided in order for both thrive, and many times, to simply survive. Marriage was in a very real sense the ritual passing of a woman from her father’s home to that of her husband. In even earlier times, women were “given” to men in arranged marriages, often as part of a larger exchange of property and wealth.
The Catholic Rite of Marriage, expresses the mutuality of the spouses in the rights, privileges, and responsibilities of marriage. The explicit inclusion of parents in the entrance procession seeks to honor with clear recognition the roles that both mothers and fathers play in the lives of their children."
“Here is what the Rite of Marriage says about the entrance procession:
If there is a procession to the altar, the ministers [e.g., lectors, altar servers] go first, followed by the priest, and then the bride and bridegroom. According to local custom, they may be escorted by at least their parents and the two witnesses. Meanwhile, the entrance song is sung. (#20)
Sound unfamiliar? That’s because in the United States and elsewhere, it is much more common for the bride to be escorted down the aisle by her father, who then “gives” her to the groom waiting at the altar—a tradition rooted in the days when weddings were viewed as a sort of property transaction (with the woman being the property).
The wedding procession suggested by the Rite of Marriage better symbolizes the Church’s understanding of the complementary role of the husband and wife in marriage.
Another option is to skip the procession altogether; the presider simply greets the bride and groom at the altar (Rite of Marriage #19).”