I totally agree. However, it is irritating that people call me old fashioned because of my beliefs. It almost feels as if they are ridiculing me because of them. I’m sure they don’t mean to do this, but this is how their comments make me feel.
***I am sorry that it make you feel ridiculed and irritated… But Christ did promise that those who hate him will also hate us… while being called “old-fashioned” isn’t really a form of hate (I would like to say it is more ignorance than anything else) it is only a milder fulfillment of Christ’s promise to us. You and I are both very blessed we don’t live where Christianity is against the law and each time we go to Mass, we’re risking our freedoms and lives.
I used to also become offended and hurt when I was called old fashioned, but now I see it as a compliment, because of the above mentioned promise. I tend to thank the other person for their compliment, which has angered a few folks, but it might have opened a door to plant some seeds, because I’ll get the question, “What do you mean by that?” I get a chance to explain why I am so “old fashioned”, and though I haven’t had any “instant conversions”, I do see where maybe a small light has come on.
Some of the before mentioned ignorance may come from them simply not being exposed to the reasonings behind these stances. Especially if their parents and peers don’t hold that marriage is until death, that pre-marital sex is alright (as long as no one get’s hurt [and everyone gets hurt]), etc… and add to that the fact that some of these folks may have never stepped foot in a church (at least willingly), I am not surprised that Catholics are being called old fashioned. In fact, I would be surprised if we weren’t being called that. I would like to encourage (and maybe even challenge) you that the next time you’re called old fashioned, try to let God use you in that situation to plant a seed.
The problem is that my Catholic positions make me feel disconnected with most of my peers. I feel that my views make me different, and it almost feels like we Catholics belong to a different era, or even a different world. Our morals are so different to those of the average population. I truly believe in the Catholic faith, but it makes me feel like an outsider at times.
It is tough to feel disconnected with ones peers, and I know this from personal experience. I have very little to do with most people I went to high school with (a population of over 1500), because I am disconnected from them. I refuse to engage in sexual immorality, refuse to support the murder of millions of unborn, will not support female ordination (in any denomination), and the usage of inclusive language, especially in hymns and other religious music is one of my biggest pet peeves, especially when dealing with God (and refering to HIM).
It’s not that we belong to a different era per say… we don’t belong to any era. We belong to God, who stands outside of time, regardless of that time period. We are to be in the world, but not of it.
As far as a different world… one of the elements of Mass is to recreate (as best as we fallible humans can) the Heavenly Liturgy everytime it is celebrated. The Church has a visible body here on Earth, but part of the Church is the invisible body in heaven, of the souls of the former Church Militant who now are the Church Triumphant. We are to be of that world. This world is only a temporary stop where we “subdue and pummel our bodies” and strive for holiness and heaven until we reach the ultimate destination (with maybe one other layover… :D)
The Catholic faith is very counter-cultural, and I really struggle with this.
***This is a struggle that I still deal with on a daily basis, but one that has become a bit easier through prayer, attending Mass frequently, and spending time with Christ in front of the Blessed Sacrament. I have also started friendships with those who are older than me (sometimes 25 or 30 years). In fact, my closest friend is 15 years older than me, and we have ended up being the answer to each others’ prayers (his for help from someone to come back into communion with the Church after a 5 year absense, and mine for a friend that understands my stances on morality, among other things). ***