I am so sorry to hear what happend to the mother in the example you gave. I would have written something like this as an answer to the angry person:
If she (your mother) really was excomunicated it must have been used as a warning.
There is no problems of today for a catholic to marry a protestant (free to marry in church, that’s annulled or never married) in the Catholic Church, but the church requires that both the protestant and the catholic agree to raise the childeren in the catholic faith. If they will not do that the catholic resignes her/his faith by free will and has no longer right to reseive the sacraments.
If the protestant don’t want to obey, he/she is partly to blame for what happens to his/her bride/bridegrom. If the couple later matures and returns to Church, the mother (in this case) would have to be reconciled to the Church by admitting she was wrong (confession to a priest), promise to have the children raised catholic and had her marriage blessed by the Church. If the man was bound to a former marriage that was not anulled , he still was married to the other one and the only way she (your mother ) could come back to Church, would be to leave him. :bible1:
About death: Everyone can call for a catholic priest, even protestants, to be reconciled with the chatholic church (some don’t feel sorry for sins when they do the sins and don’t want to repent before this stage in life (if they do understand that they have sinned and now feel sorry). There will then be a confession and a parttaking in the Eucaristuc meal (and annointing). As an axample: If a protestant has asked for this on his deathbed, he dies as a catholic and will be burried from a Catholic Church. The ususal formalities for convertion is not considered in the special circumstances!!
I **do understand ** that you have many feelings attached to this. :mad: :crying: , but you can’t hinder a church to have its own regulations to put on their members. If people are excommunicated it is because they have sinned of free will! ** That part ** I suppose is very difficult to accsept, because it’s not always so easy to see faults in loved ones like a mother or a father. In this special case, however, there can have been misunderstandings or the priest may have misused his power. :bigyikes:
If your mother didn’t understand that she could be reconsiled with the Church, you must leave the whole thing to a mercyful God! It is only by the grace of God we will enter Heaven.
Anyway, **you have lost your catholic upbringing ** and need to learn about what you have lost and how good God is (even if he permits evil. Without that permission we would have been God small puppets on strings).
A link to catholic marriage (Sacrament of Matrimony):
A link to catholic confession (Sacrament of Penance/Reconciliation):
Here is a link about **all ** The Seven Sacraments of the Church:
The Catholic Cathechism on The Seven sacraments:
Some good books about catholisism:
The Catholic Virtues: Seven Pillars of a Good Life (Paperback)
by Mitch Finley
On Being Catholic by Thomas Howard
Making Sense Out of Suffering by Peter Kreeft
( All of them can be bought from amazon.com/
To find Bibleverses that is appropriate, search here:
Link to “150 Reasons Why I am a Catholic
Featuring 300 Biblical Evidences Favoring Catholicism”:
My best wishes. Hope you will be able to plant a little seed about that the person (from the mixed marriage) should have been catholic and must not let anger or frustations be hindrances to learn about the catholic faith! (We have all had our disappointments in life (some more than others), but life must go on. It’s of no use to blame someone or to blame God or Church for our own misfortune).
We have our free will to blame Him (God) of course, but that doesn’t help us to come closer to God!!
Link to the cominghome network:
**A prayer: **
Be, Lord Jesus, a bright flame before me,
a guiding star above me,
a smooth path below me,
a kindly shepherd behind me:
today, tonight, and forever. Amen.