It is the Church’s requirement.
You had a preist tell you not getting a license breaks Church law, and gave citations. He explained officiating a marriage without a license is a felony or misdemeanor in most states.
This whole thread people have given you good and valid reasons why the state license is important and is not subordinating the Church to the state.
Your response has largely been to say “La la la. I can’t hear you.”
Your conscience, your friend’s conscience HAS NO BEARING here. You disagree with the Church, fine. You would do things differently, fine.
So, I will give you one last possible solution. If everything is how you say, your friends are very powerful. I am sure they can go to the governor of the state and get a nice letter explaining the situation to present to their Bishop. There, situation solved.