FrDavis96, Oh, wow, you came on strong here. I admire a priest who stands for the Catholic Church’s teaching so strongly! Well then, I admire a priest in general. Just especially one who defends the Church teaching.
Although, maybe - if you please pardon me saying – possibly, its so strong in how you stated it that its like you are hitting her with a 2 by 4. So, maybe a little too strong? Because you have to factor in that you bear the hefty power of a respected position behind your words, so, they can come out a bit stronger.
I am a convert and spent most of my life as a Protestant. And back when I was still staunchly Protestant (“just Christian”, I’d have said then), a devout Catholic friend was discussing a situation with other devout Catholic friends, and they explained to her that the Church is slow to change practices, as a whole, as she is like a large ship that takes a lot of time and space to make a turn to change a direction. That still sticks with me as a truth.
And yet, we are in a fast-changing society, one changing rapidly in the direction of paganism, immorality and disobedience in general. This is the same society that we contract with for marriage. And though it is clearly now God’s will (or allowance) for the Church to do exactly what she is doing, as far as uniting with society in marriage, as, things are not yet so bad. But its clear that things are changing, such as the definition of “what is marriage” according to our government [i think heard that marrying one’s pet dog is up next on the agenda for marriage equality:open_mouth:].
So you see, if nothing explodes and instead things keep going in the same direction they are now - and society has been sticking to its course with increasing velocity for some time - it could certainly, soon and very soon, become a problem. And as the Church generally changes slower than current law and culture, we can anticipate an increasing number of “but what about?” problems like the OP writes of here. Even if we decide the OP’s case is no exceptional thing, certainly, we are headed to more and more exceptional cases before the Church takes that big wide turn to change direction in her practice of yoking herself with our civil government’s definition of marriage. And before then there will be increasing times when God’s people will in fact have reason to say, “The Church is not acting fairly/justly/morally.”
Am I right, Father?
Yes, so, then what? At that time, will it then be appropriate to question church practice, and seek what seems to be God’s direction?? Can you see it coming to that? I mean, a time when it IS right and just to say, “I am becoming more and more convinced that US Catholics should not contract with the state before marriage.”??
(Also I was thinking’s along the lines that since we don’t know the full story of the family mentioned by the OP, maybe its possible they do have a higher moral reason for their choice, and they may even be acting in obedience to God’s will as to their family’s personal response to civil government).
Respectfully yours, your sister in Christ