I have asked this question in many threads, which were not discussing this particular problem. My Catholic husband received the sacrament of Holy Matrimony to his first wife in 1959. In 1977 they were divorced civily, because she joined the Seventh Day Adventist church and took the 4 children and left him. After that he married a woman who died of bone cancer in 1995. Then he and I were married in 1999. I am Mormon. He has been a very faithful Catholic, never misses mass, unless very ill.
He was told that he could not receive any of the sacraments of the RCC unless he could qualify for annulment.
Since he could not tell the priests that he had married by mistake or been coerced into marriage, he was told he could not qualify for annulment.
The priests we have asked have all had varying opinions and have left my husband very confused. For 2 years he was told, “What God has joined together let no man put asunder” this was simply repeated where ever we turned to for answers. My husband then had brain surgery which paralyzed his right side. He still attends mass every week and has given over $6000.00 to the Catholic church just in the past year. Now, last summer, he went to another priest and he gave him some papers to fill out, which he then turned in along with $150.00 to the local diocese tribunal.
The tribunal called and said that the priest should never have forwarded the application for annulment to them as he doesn’t qualify for annulment. They then sent a retired priest to our home, and that priest offered my husband the sacrament of penance.
He said that now my husband could take the Eucharist and go to confession. My husband was very happy and at peace again. Then I told about it in this forum and a priest said that it was impossible for this to happen. I told my husband and now he does not believe that the retired priest had the proper authority, but his parish priest says yes, but now today the person called 'iwonder"says she is a tribunal member and that none of this is possible. So which priests are correct? or is none of them correct? I and my husband are very concerned about this problem with the priests not knowing what the Church believes, or standing up for each other’s views. Can someone who really knows clarify this problem, or tell us who to really contact that can once and for all tell us the truth about it. I know I do not know the correct words to use or how the Catholic Church works, I asked my husband to help me word this thread properly.
This is very sincere and no one has answered my other posts about it. The Catholics either call me a liar or ignore my posts on the subject. So I expect a flood of information now and maybe some priests will weigh in on why all of them believe different things about divorce. The main thing is my husband really forgiven, Why did the retired priest have more authority than all of the other priests? He is the only one who could say my husband was forgiven. But, now his parish priest agrees with the retired priest. Thanks for all of your input on this, I hope you can put my husband’s mind at ease. He is 70 and soon to undergo colon surgery for cancer. I would so much like him to know in his heart that the priest who forgave him did the right thing.
Even if he is no longer welcome in the Catholic Church, he needs to know once and for all.