[quote="PleasinChrist, post:1, topic:274398"]
This will be short. Today when my wife was in the shower I walked into our bathroom to get the dental floss and I saw her shaving her legs through the glass doors. Before I even could think about it I felt aroused by the sight of her nude body in the shower! I got very amorous and felt a strong urge to have sex with her. But I have to admit it was not to make a baby and become closer to her, it was because she was a real fox and I wanted to "be with" her! Is it wrong that I think lustfully of my wife (12 years this March) this way? I think I read in Christopher West's book that I need to crucify my lustful thoughts? That sex is for unity and babies but not really just to scratch an itch? I love my wife and she is a babe, but maybe I am wrong in thinking this way?
Dude - no, you're not. If you weren't attracted to her in the first place, you probably wouldn't want to have sex, and if we all were waiting to think, "Well, I'd like another kid", we'd hardly ever have sex! They go hand in hand. One leads to the other. Wanting to "be with her" is perfectly fine as long as you're ready to accept the kid that may come along. Now, if you're just thinking "I want some release" and not thinking of taking care of your wife as well out of love, then you're off track.