I had a discussion with a friend we were kind of discussing my vocation to be a deacon or priest. We got on to the issue of the promise to not get married which led to a discussion of chacity as a joke because we can’t have sex outside of marriage however he came back with an argument I disagree with but wasn’t in a position to refute because I never seriously thought about it and now I want to be able to address this situation better when it comes up.
I belive he is a very good catholic man given his faith what he says and his actions however he has had sex outside of marriage with one girl a while ago as well as a girl he is now engaged to. His argument is that God said we should not commit adultery. Now that means to him don’t have sex with with someone else’s wife or girlfriend or to cheat on your girl friend or wife. However if you and a girl are not in a relationship with someone else then it’s probably ok to have sex. He came back also saying that does’t mean we should go sleeping around with a bunch of people but if a man and a woman care for eachother a great deal then it is ok.
I have to say although I think sex should be for marriage only this is one of the few issues I haven’t been able intelligently argue from a scriptural stand point As everything seems to point to a man and a woman in a relationship comitting adultery and not people having premarital sex.
What say you?