Yes…without a doubt I would have no problem putting one sin on another… its foolish to just argue the point of “its wrong”…of course its wrong…its also wrong to have an abortion and horrible to catch a disease. I dont need Church Doctrine quoted to me. I know what it is. I also realize not everybody in the world is Catholic and not every Christian agrees that condoms are wrong.
Answer this plain and clear…are YOU saying someone who has sex outside of marriage SHOULDNT use a common and therefore SPREAD a disease or run the risk of pregnancy.? I say, if you pretty much committed yourself to the idea of having some premartial sex, that DOESNT excuse the need to STILL BE (RESPONSIBLE) in ones sexual actions.
This is where the Church needs to rethink their approach in their language WITHOUT giving an allusion that they are promoting premartial sex…but yeah, I am of the belief, if you ARE gonna do it, do it as safe as possible. And I feel I have no problem holding this belief and still stating I believe first and foremost in abstaining…but I also know young (as well as older people) have sexual urges and quite simply, people HAVE SEX…its even in the bible…even Gods favorites were doing it outside marriage…doesnt mean he approved, but my point is, PEOPLE HAVE SEX…so its logical to be as safe as possible…to do less is compounding the problem of already making that decision…and quite stupid and unfair to tell teens…just abstain cause condoms “dont work”… THAT is a LIE and THAT is DANGEROUS. Maybe a teen in the heat of the moment without any condoms handy (and pretty much committed to the deed) will think"awe the heck with a condom, “THEY” all say they dont work anyway…so whats the difference"?..
for ME that is unfair to a teen who already is thinking with the “little head” instead of the big one. Its a total lie to say condoms dont work…its propaganda. They arent 100% safe & effective, but neither are bullet “proof” vests…they are simply bullet “resistent”…chances are you WILL DIE or get seriously injured if not wearing your “protection” than if you were.
Do you think they “deserve” to get a disease for having premarital sex?
Please dont answer with what the Church says, we KNOW that…And I think you are smart enough to realize that despite what the Church says people WILL have premarital sex…so please…be realistic and tell me what you would say to them barring failing to get them to change their mind?
Would you be silent? “afraid” of sinning against God if you dared to think for yourself and offered an opinion to that person?
Me…I’m gonna BEG them to use a condom…to me, barring not being successful in convincing them to abstain (the best choice) I feel I am being Christian by possibly saving their life not only physically from a potential disease or DEATH itself, but possibly an unwanted pregnancy that could possibly turn into an abortion…I would rather deal with sex and condoms than sex w/o condoms but now including an unwanted pregnancy and abortion(murder) the choice for me is easy. I’d rather pile up some sins than pile up life long physical and emotional problems (barring of course the choice to not abstain has been made)
My morality scale is:
Premaital sex & Condoms…easily forgivable and more than likely walk away unscathed …hardest thing to do: Confession
Flip side of coin:
Sex without condom=Possible STD or AIDS, possible pregnancy, possible abortion, bigger guilt and shame and possible death sentence, that despite confession will not go away and you possibly die.
of Course abstainence, but barring that cause I refuse to put my head in the sand with people I care about, my caring will NEVER stop at the…“well the Church says this” I cant tell you anything any further… and then I just walk away…not Christian at all in my book. Its clear for me, the lesser sin(s) are just using the damn condom…maybe even TWO, and just going to confession if the urge was that great to have sex.
I simply aint walking away from a buddy or my own protection of my life if they or me cant control sexual urges…if the world were a utopia there wouldnt be a need for Confession in the first place…its there cause people DO break the rules…doesnt mean to abuse the outlet of Confession, but its there cause people do these things and they need to be educated on what to do IF they are gonna breal the rules. I think its criminal to keep them in the dark and issue misinformation that condoms simply dont work.