I very much agree with you in principle. In practice however, ear plugs and ear buds have made me not care anymore.
Six years ago there was some real nasty infighting about talking inside the church at the early Mass which I attend. I kept clear of the infighting but it got very nasty and it went on for some time. I figured I would offer a solution.
There is a man I trained to open the church on Sundays. He’s a widower, he lives about a block away and he never misses Mass. I asked him at the time if he would also be willing to unlock one of the conference rooms and make an urn of coffee each Sunday? His face lit up and he said he would be delighted. I talked to a friend of mine who owns a coffee place where he grinds and compounds his own coffee in bulk for resale. I asked him for a deal on coffee and he said he would give me one.
I emailed my pastor and offered John’s service each Sunday to open a conference room and make an urn of coffee. I said the coffee would be on me for the first year. He could then direct people to go to the conference room if they wanted to talk before Mass.
I never received a response to my email.
I resent the email. No response.
I sent it one final time. No response again. I wondered if my pastor was even seeing my email?
Then he sent me an email about something completely unrelated (using the same email address I had been sending to.) I emailed back with a question and he immediately responded. He had been getting my emails.
I figure he LIKES talking in the church but just lacked the resolve to say so.
Thank God (again) for my ear plugs and ear buds!