So, my nephew's birthday is coming up (I have a total of 14 nieces and nephews between my husband's family and mine, and then there are cousins' children too in which I only attend 1 birthday parties for). I was discussing with my mom if my nephew was having a party (his is at some kid-themed place but we have not received the word about date and times yet). I don't know how I made the comment but I stated that I will not be having any family parties for our childrens' birthdays and instead will only have parties for baptism, communion, confirmation, graduation, etc. My mom seemed upset, but I told her that what we will be doing instead is allowing the birthday child to control all the activities and foods on their birthday (or the soonest weekend day around their birthday), kind of like they'll be queen or king for the day. She seemed upset and had the look of sorrow for my daughter. I basically said that I don't want nor need so much of the stuff that comes as birthday gifts (my husband and I are both from large families).
Do I sound too strict or cheap? Frankly, I always find myself torn between a "normal" American lifestyle and St. Francis (where I'd love to give everything away and only have very basics. I also find myself frustrated with all the family parties when every child has way too many toys, gadgets, etc. Maybe I've just had my fill and am sick of the unnecessary materialism.