Hi all -
The title of the thread pretty much says it all. My 12-year old son backs away from any type of social pressure or physical challenge at all. He is so afraid of failing (say, at sports or games) that he’d rather not try than fail! Same with relationships; he’d rather be alone than risk rejection from peers, etc. (Though, interestingly, he’ll engage kids a few years younger than he is, like my younger son’s friends.)
Wondering if any of you have tips to help him embrace a different attitude and to rise above a lack of confidence. Honestly, I’m concerned that he’ll never take enough of a risk to experience success, making this a lifelong rut.
Some things I’ve considered:
Asking him what experience he’d like to have that he’s been too afraid to pursue, and then helping him take small steps toward achieving that goal.
Locating books on building self-confidence for teens.
Trying individual sports rather than team sports, so that team members won’t be reliant upon his successes or lack thereof (tennis, track, swimming, ice skating, etc. This has been good in many respects, but he needs a little ego-stroking from peers, too, I think.)