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In high school, I briefly considered religious life, but this was discouraged by my family. Soon after I met my now-husband. I am very happy with him, but we cannot have children. For personal reasons, we also cannot adopt. I am trying to figure out the meaning behind a childless married vocation. I feel as though, if I weren't to be a mother, why didn't God allow me to join a convent? Why did He allow me to marry?
But I know that it may be bc I was able to bring my DH to the faith (recently, actually). I myself have also grown much in my faith through our struggles over the years. Still, it's tricky to think of myself as having the marriage vocation when that generally includes parenting. Yet I can't really consider a sort of monastic-at-home vocation, bc I am married and I do have responsibilities towards my hubby.
DH and I have been getting more and more involved at our parish this year, continuing to seek out ministries and ways that we can help as a couple. This has been very helpful, and I guess I'm looking for some resources of other childless couples who have served God together.
I want to shift my attitude from one of lamenting the lack of children to that of embracing the time and opportunity we have to serving God together in other ways, as a married couple.
Could anyone suggest saints or resources? Thanks!
The woman that founded the Carmelites of the Sacred Heart of Los Angeles located in Los Angeles, CA, her name escapes me at the moment, but she was married to a man like 20 yrs older and they never had kids, but they worked with orphans and hospitals and after he died she became a nun and founded what is today an active Carmelite community that serves in education and nursing. I visited them for a retreat--they are wonderful!
And personally, I know my sister and her husband, they married when she was 50 (her first marriage) and although they have been open to kids, she wasn't able to conceive, they have worked with kids in the church--youth group functions and helping the newly marrieds....also there was an elderly couple in the church where I grew up and they did EVERYTHING around the church---they had no kids, but from yard work to teaching to visiting the homebound, cooking, cleaning, you name it, they did it, if they weren't at home, they were at church, serving God as a couple was their life.....I've always hoped for myself to have a husband I could do that with!
You can be married and serve God as a couple without kids. Remain open to kids---you never know, Sarah and Abraham, Elizabeth and Zachariah---had kids when they were supposed to be past the age of childbearing and unable to do so!