First post here, often a lurker but never registered until today.
I am a Christian mum married 16 years to a Catholic (gorgeous) man and we have one daughter who is Catholic from birth just like hubbie.
While preparing for her First Holy Communion this year my daughter asked me why I was not Catholic and I (for once) did not have any answer. If I had been asked to convert at the time we got married then I probably would have, but for all the wrong reasons.
As both my hubbie and I have gone to all the Communion parents meetings and worked through the ‘I Believe’ book with her I realised that I was technically ‘Catholic’ - that is I believe in everything that hubbie and daughter do, I go to Church with them (only receiving a Blessing), I pray, I worship and I belong. I help out at school fetes, make cakes for Church, my husband has asked to be a Minister (which for me is hysterically funny as he is 6ft 4 and looks like Meatloaf/The Undertaker with long hair and will be standing towering over poeple at the front of Church… sorry I digress).
So at the end of one of the parents meeting I asked my Priest where I signed up and have not looked back. Hubbie and I see Father Peter every few weeks, do our Bible reading and homework and now I have been told I will be Confirmed in November and I am overjoyed… in fact tearful as I write this down.
So now for the question… what name do I choose for myself at Confirmation? Am I able as a woman to take a male Saints name?
I do have my reasons, I am not a conventional mum, I am in my faith but much of my life is not stereotypical and being 40 last year means I approach my Confirmation with older eyes.
I want to choose St Martin, the Roman soldier who seeing a beggar cut his cloak in two. I choose that for symbolism and for the name itself which is my maiden name.
I consider myself a fighter, as my alias suggests my daughter was premature and WE had to FIGHT as a family to keep her. My personality makes me a fighter, having struggled many times to find my inner strength. I am also a do-er, that is I help, I share, I think of others as he did.
And its my maiden name… but whats in a name???
When my daughter was very ill I joined a preemie-l email group and one woman sent me a poem by Erma Bombeck called The Special Mother. It tells how God chooses what child for what woman and which Saint to chooses to watch over them. For a premature babies mum the Angel asks God which Saint and He replies “A mirror will suffice”. This has always stuck in my mind and now at my Confirmation I am thinking that if I look into a mirror I see myself, a Martin by birth looking back at me and how apt it would be for St Martin to be my chosen Saint.
Is this allowed? This feels so right for me but will this be acceptable to the Church?
Thank you for reading.