Choosing my son's Godparents


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We plan to have our 18 month old son baptized in The Church soon. I was thinking about who his Godparents should be. Do they have to be Catholic? We don't have many people close to us who are Catholic, and those that are, aren't practicing.

I'm not really sure who we should choose...


#2

Start with your pastor, he should be able to give you direction.


#3

[quote="Abrigham, post:1, topic:292921"]
We plan to have our 18 month old son baptized in The Church soon. I was thinking about who his Godparents should be. Do they have to be Catholic? We don't have many people close to us who are Catholic, and those that are, aren't practicing.

I'm not really sure who we should choose...

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The rules are that only practicing Catholics can be godparents. Only one is required. Another non-Catholic person may be a Christian witness to the Baptism.


#4

I'm a Catholic revert & two years ago we had our marriage convalidated (my husband is not Catholic...yet ;) )& our children baptized (ages then 10, 5, & 6). We chose the same God-Parents for all 3 children & a couple whom they feel comfortable with. I did not choose any family members. She was a teacher aide at their Catholic school & my husband has known the husband since they were little. I chose someone who has a good long track record of being Catholic & their lives show that they are truly Catholic. I also wanted someone who wasn't going to move away & could be in the same town. We don't see them all the time only at church and at kids birthday parties & church activities and that's ok with us.

Good luck! :)


#5

We picked some catholic friends for our first child. They turned out to be rather lukewarm in the faith. As a family we have progressed past the "collage and mobile" phase of dissent in the catholic church and have become much more loyal to the church and magisterium.

At present, the godparents are a little bit of an embarrasment. They are useful as a demonstration of how not to live the faith. Years later, "our eyes have been opened."

Choose the most faithful, orthodox people you can find that are still growing in the faith. Someone that practices frequent confession, eucharistic adoration, annual retreats, etc. These are the "real" catholics and can provide a lifetime of support.


#6

[quote="Abrigham, post:1, topic:292921"]
We plan to have our 18 month old son baptized in The Church soon. I was thinking about who his Godparents should be. Do they have to be Catholic? We don't have many people close to us who are Catholic, and those that are, aren't practicing.

I'm not really sure who we should choose...

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As I understand from a traditional point of view,the godparent(s) must be catholic.Ideally the name of the child be a Christian name.If not,choose one for the Baptism this may vary from parish to parish.All the priests at our priory ask "is this a Christian name?"One French-Canadian priest at our parish sent a bride home to cover up her body and return to the church on her wedding day,'cause her dress was immodest.

Most priests offer tolerance and flexibility with certain things.Godparents is not about having your best mate or relatives,but those who show good example and will pray for the child.If you don't know any up-standing Catholics,ask father to point out a good family that you could use.Then,you will have new found friends and practising Catholics as godparents.

God bless your little one and all the best.

JMJ


#7

[quote="Abrigham, post:1, topic:292921"]
We plan to have our 18 month old son baptized in The Church soon. I was thinking about who his Godparents should be. Do they have to be Catholic? We don't have many people close to us who are Catholic, and those that are, aren't practicing.

I'm not really sure who we should choose...

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For a start you only need one godparent (correct word is acually sponsor) but you can have maximum two (one male and one female), and yes they must be Catholics in good standing with the Church and at least 16 years old.

Canon Law:

CHAPTER IV : SPONSORS

Can. 872 In so far as possible, a person being baptised is to be assigned a sponsor. In the case of an adult baptism, the sponsor's role is to assist the person in christian initiation. In the case of an infant baptism, the role is together with the parents to present the child for baptism, and to help it to live a christian life befitting the baptised and faithfully to fulfil the duties inherent in baptism.

Can. 873 One sponsor, male or female, is sufficient; but there may be two, one of each sex.

Can. 874 §1 To be admitted to undertake the office of sponsor, a person must:

1° be appointed by the candidate for baptism, or by the parents or whoever stands in their place, or failing these, by the parish priest or the minister; to be appointed the person must be suitable for this role and have the intention of fulfilling it;

2° be not less than sixteen years of age, unless a different age has been stipulated by the diocesan Bishop, or unless the parish priest or the minister considers that there is a just reason for an exception to be made;

3° be a catholic who has been confirmed and has received the blessed Eucharist, and who lives a life of faith which befits the role to be undertaken;

4° not labour under a canonical penalty, whether imposed or declared;

5° not be either the father or the mother of the person to be baptised.

§2 A baptised person who belongs to a non-catholic ecclesial community may be admitted only in company with a catholic sponsor, and then simply as a witness to the baptism.


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