My oldest child is 4. He is learning to be independent and do more of taking care of himself, and his things. A list of some of the things he is able to do alone (he does most of these things everyday):
Chooses clothes and dresses himself
Brushes teeth/washes face
Makes bed neatly
Puts away clean folded clothes
Puts dirty clothes in proper place
Helps put clean dishes away
Clears place at table
Runs vaccum (although not thoroughly)
Picks up toys/books
Straightens shoes and coats
Is this appropriate? Many times he will whine and carry on, especially about making his bed. I have seen him do a very neat job (as neat as I do it) in about 5 minutes of work. He is very able to do this. However he is ALWAYS reluctant to do this chore. My mom suggested I sort of do it with him, but it’s actually him doing it. I tried that today, and it helped, but usually when I have tried it, he just gives up and wants me to do the work.
Should I just make him do what I ask promptly or let the consequences take over? (i.e. he lollygags so long he misses story time (his favorite thing) or some other fun activity.)
Just looking for seasoned parents’ advice…I understand children will whine, but are these chores age-appropriate or is it too much?