Christian & catholic


My wife’s great-grandmother was over 90 and very ill and nearing the end of her life and in great pain a lot of the time. It would have been inappropriate to start conversations where I challenged her in her own home, as I was a guest there. It would have been considered very disrespectful indeed. Her son was an atheist but he still made sure when she passed she was buried in accordance with the rites of the Orthodox Church as that was one of her final wishes. Also, please do not speculate about what I was or was not taught as a child in that manner again. It is offensive. I will point out that given my aunt is a religious sister and my later mother and father were very devout Catholics I certainly was taught about the concept of Extra Ecclesiam nulla salus. The fact I do not believe it or agree with it does not mean I don’t understand it. I simply regard it as pious nonsense.


You didn’t write them, but you selected (cherry-picked?) them and wielded them in what I perceive as an uncharitable manner. There are better ways to use a bible to instruct people than hitting them with it.


In fairness, That’s not how you presented the point originally

I was merely taking from your own acknowledgement Re: Religion on your identification page. "Agnostic with some attachment to Catholic traditions remaining."

Based on your identification, I made a fair and respectful point.

Okay. You made an informed decision. Understood.


How is quoting scripture hitting them with it.


Do you really not understand how the manner of presentation can completely change how the message is received?


Are you really going to lecture Jesus and Paul etc that they needed to say things more sensitively?

When Jesus said only a few are saved, is He not being NICE?
When Paul said after listing certain sins, that those who do them won’t inherit heaven, is Paul not NICE?


I said absolutely nothing to or about Jesus or Paul, as you should be well aware. I am done.


Jesus and Hebrews etc, is who I quoted.

So please explain


Argumentative today?
You are nitpicking without adding a useful distinction.
Everyone but maybe you got I was referring to the bible,
but was not claiming it was the EXACT same set of books or translation

My comments were at appropriate detail for the question posed by the OP.


I wan’t nitpicking. I was looking for specifics


As the late Sir Terry Pratchett observed it’s always lovely to see how people can berate and beat each other up in the name of a religion founded on love.


Here’s the definition for you. What did you mean by looking for “specifics”?

nit·pick·ing: looking for small or unimportant errors or faults, especially in order to criticize unnecessarily.


This is simple. You need to set boundaries and tell your family that you will not interact with them if they continue to ask you these prying questions.


This is the post that started my response to you HERE

I was responding to what looked like to me your equalization of The Catholic Church and an ecclesial community. I would argue, that’s not nit picking, nor unimportant… especially given the topic,


To be fair, as an atheist, he didn’t like religion anyway


Hi OP, I’m also in a “mixed” marriage. We’ve been married for over 15 years and our difference in religion has been a minor blip on the radar. Only time for us when it becomes a bigger blip is when something unchairatable is said about non-Catholics at her church.

We haven’t had much of a big deal with our families. I don’t think her Dad was hot on his first born marrying someone who isn’t Catholic and now 3 out of 5 of the siblings are married to non-Catholics (or one non practicing). They got over it and it actually turned out to not be that big of deal.

I’ve never felt any sort of pressure to convert.

I know what you meant here…

We do the same, I’d say 95-98% of the time we go to her Catholic church but we do spend time at my non-denominational church as well. She enjoys going to my church too, sermons are fantastic and there’s always great fellowship. We were able to go at Christmas (my home church is over 2hrs away), and we really enjoyed that.

It really comes down to respect. As long as you both respect each other and your background, you’re golden. I’d just say that you need to put the brakes on your family pressuring him to “change his beliefs”. Family meddling can really put stress in a relationship that doesn’t and shouldn’t be there.


Yes. I don’t quite get the equivocation. The Church is what it is, and believes what it believes.

I have non Catholic relatives and respect their faith, and when they visit we don’t talk about it unless they bring it up.

I have been amused in the past when they found a Catholic who A) stood up for his belief (You aren’t going to go to our church???) and B) who didn’t think Catholicism somehow silly. They had their own version of triumphalism.


I agree with this. But then, I have a pretty small, soft cover Bible. If I had my larger, hard cover study Bible it might make a much bigger impression… :wink:


I’m not trying to be a jerk… but I still don’t get how people think this.


I know what OP meant, she just should/could have worded it better.

Many people today identify as “Christian”. In order to denote the difference in faith, when it comes to “mixed” couples, I see Christian-Catholic couple all the time. People don’t think Catholics aren’t Christian (in this context) and don’t realize/know it can be taken offensively.

What OP most likely meant (in long hand) is “I’m a non-denominational (or born again) Christian and he’s Catholic Christian”.

It’s a pretty recent phenomenon…but I knew what she meant.

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