Everyone here has given very good advice.
I find it very sad that the view of Christianity has been so degraded by its association with the current state of some portions of Western culture. Christianity exists in the midst of Western culture, but is not a part to it.
Not all of Western culture wallows in the mud, as it is portrayed on TV and in movies; and so it is wise for parents to place limits on what their children watch on TV and what movies their children are allowed to see.
Good Christian parents teach their children, from a young age, about the dignity their bodies have as creations of God; and, when the child is a little older and can understand, how sexuality and its expression is not only a wonderful gift from God, but how God wants it to be used, e.g. within marriage.
Just as parents must teach a child the proper use of everyday things, such as a comb and brush, a microwave, etc., parents must teach their children not only the “how to’s” of sex, but its proper use. Sometimes, using analogies is very helpful, such as: “Suppose you have a table with a short leg, and you’re looking for something to put under the short leg to steady the table. You think that a book might be a good idea, and try a few books. The one that seems to be just perfect is a Koran [or a Bible]. It might work fine, but the book is being used in an improper way, since a Koran [or a Bible] should not be put on the floor under the leg of a table! So it is with sex. It is a beautiful gift from God, and it can be used in an improper way… but that is an insult to God. He wants the gift to be used in the proper way.”
You are right when you say that some girls as young as 14 boast of having lost their virginity. There are even girls as young as 11 and 12 having babies! :eek: I’m sure, though, that these girls were not brought up in a practicing Christian family. One cannot only call themselves Christian - one must act it. (I’m sure there are Muslims that call themselves Muslim, yet drink alcohol, or do not pray 5 times a day, etc.)
Don’t worry now about when you marry and have children. Teach your children the ways of the Lord. When they get to the age of noticing the opposite sex and start to ask to date, allow them ask the boy or girl over to your house where they cannot do anything wrong. They can get to know each other, talk, do homework together, etc., but cannot get into a situation that they cannot handle because you or your wife will be home. Keep them busy. They can’t get tempted to get into trouble if they are busy in after school activities where there is adult supervision. Involvement in sports is very good… and healthy.
I’m sure you will make a very good husband and father, and pray that the day will come when the Lord leads you to the woman He has chosen for you to spend your life with.
*“Dear God, do You know the greatest grief one of Your creatures can bear? It is the thought that she can never love You enough. ” *- St. Gemma Galgani