I was thinking about this in the No Fault Divorce thread, and I decided to post this, since it's really a seperate topic.
After my parents' divorce, my mom waited for almost a year before she told the friends she had in church. (This was a Protestant church.) I can't blame her. A classmate of mine had gone through a divorce a couple of years ago, and his mom had to leave their church. (Also Protestant.)
Most Christians, Catholic or Protestant, frown upon divorce. However, I think many Christians have a bad reason for frowning upon divorce.
Many Christians frown upon divorce because they, conciously or unconciously, want to believe that following the Bible or the Church's teachings guarantees happiness. This is, of course, a ludicrus proposition but many Christians believe this. This idea is omnipresent in chastity talks to young people. "Don't have sex before marriage and God will reward you with a great marriage and fantastic sex. I guarantee you, you won't regret waiting." (My mom was a virgin when she married, and she does regret waiting.) It's also present in other ways. Now, I can't be sure, but I'm willing to be that this is largely an American phenomenon, because Americans have been blessed with prosperity for a very long time. I can't imagine a pastor or priest in Haiti telling his congregation that if they obey God, he can guarantee their happiness! Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that this is the only reason that Christians don't like divorce. But I do think that this is one of the reasons, and it's a terrible reason. It's a reason that needs to go the way of the Dodo and the Passenger Pigeon.
When a Christian couple breaks up, especially a couple who did everything right and follows all the rules, it shows that this belief is a fallacy, and frankly many Christians don't react very well to this truth.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that Christians shouldn't care about the skyrocketing divorce rate, or should promote liberal divorce laws. But we need to consider the reasons that divorce upsets us. And we need to accept the fact that, just because we do everything right, we cannot guarantee that life will work out the way we like it.