I’ll try to be as succinct as possible…
It is 28 October today… we got confirmation yesterday that my DH is deploying to Iraq by 8 Jan 06. We live off post so we’ll have to pack up the house and move on post. We have to give the landlord a 30 day notice from the next rent date (which is 1 Nov). Housing told us they could have a new house for us and will let us know next week (first week of Nov).
We HAD plans to visit my folks in Japan for Christmas. The deployment changed those plans and now DH wants to visit his family in Ohio for Christmas.
We have spent the past three Christmas’s with his family. They are not Catholic, and to make a long story short-- are very anti-Catholic. I won’t waste time detailing what I’ve been through with that.
We don’t have the money to travel to Ohio with a family of five via plane or car. In order to make the time constraints of packing and moving a house (which we just did back on 1 May, gave birth to our 3rd baby on 6 May, and on 17 May started our drive across the country from GA to CA), getting his paperwork done that is MANDATORY to be done within the 30 day window of reporting in country which those dates also encompass holiday half day schedules and block leave… he wants to go to Ohio to visit his mom (who is 90 but very physically capable of traveling) because “You never know.”
I didn’t visit my family last Christmas due to some other reasons and my grandfather was hit and killed by a truck in Feb. My grandmother still reminds me of that fact that we changed our minds. So the “you never know” concept just doesn’t sit well with me.
I’ve been praying about it, but I really, really, really hate the thought of going to Ohio for Christmas. I am heartbroken that we can’t go to Japan, added to the stress that my DH is about to go into a combat zone for a year and I’m left behind with three yung’uns with our oldest about to be six in December.
maybe I just talked myself into talking to him about having his family come to us instead of us going to them… would that be a better idea? I would not want to have to put up with his family if he was to be killed and he didn’t see them before he left. My MIL would certainly rub that in my face (along with the fact that he’s not baptised, but that’s another thread in and of itself).
Thanks for reading this through.