Yesterday my dad offered to pay for my daughter and I to fly out to visit him for a few days before Christmas. I had informed him that I could go, but that my daughter’s father would have to agree for her to go (which he doesn’t). My dad told me to grow up and hung up the phone (he wasn’t too happy). I don’t have the heart to tell him that I hate visiting with him for more than a few hours because all he does is criticize me. Well, my mom (his ex-wife) thinks that I’m being a jerk for not going for the couple of days and that I’m cutting off ties (which I don’t believe that I am) by not going on this trip. I have visited him 3 times since my daughter’s birth (2 of the time were just me and my daughter). The last visit we had to leave a day early b/c my daughter’s asthma was acting up and I believe it was due to all the dog hair in my dad’s house (my allergies were terrible too). I am usually counting down the days and hours until my flight home when I’m visiting him. So, I guess, my question is, what would anyone here do if in my situation. I will not go, but I don’t know how to tell my dad without it turning into WWIII.