Hi, everyone… I am having a problem and would love your advice and input. My DH is in the military and we live in Japan. I have a two-year-old (almost three) and a three-month-old. The problem is that we miss church a lot. They are technically good reasons, but I feel guilty constantly about it. My two-year-old is sick a lot. He wasn’t sick this much in the States, but the air here isn’t exactly the cleanest. When he gets sick, he has cold symptoms, but no fever. Last week, we missed church because my DH had bad stomach pains and had to lay on the couch when we were on our way out. In the last year and a half, he has had diverticulitis, perforated appendicitis, and gallbladder disease. He had to have his appendix removed and was in the hospital two weeks, with a month of home care afterwards, and he had his gallbladder removed. So, when he gets bad stomach pains, I get very scared. I thought I was going to have to take him to the ER, but didn’t. Last month, the baby, toddler, and I were all sick and had to stay home. Today, my toddler is sick again and I kept him here while DH went to church. I give him medicine, but it doesn’t help much. Also, when I was pregnant I missed a few times toward the end because I was exhausted and very depressed and just couldn’t seem to be able to make it. I went to confession for that already.
So, when do you keep your kids home? Should I take him, even though he has a cold? I don’t want him getting others sick. Our church is small and everyone is close together. When he stays home, he watches one of his religious videos and lays on the couch. I really don’t want to give them the impression that it’s okay to miss a lot of church, but I don’t know what to do. Is it normal to miss church a lot when you have young kids? I’m worried our priest is going to think we skip out on church a lot. I feel very guilty about this.