I started this same thread on www.familylife.com
It’s a Protestant board. Go to the Forum and go to the Marriage and Theology Section. You’ll find the thread called “Church Hopping.”
You will see some insightful responses from Protestants, and it looks like it will be a fairly active thread. This is a topic that is near and dear to many Protestants.
I believe the advent of the “needs based church” in the 1980s started the “church hop.” People look for a church that “meets their needs.”
I think it’s sad. We should look for the Church that Jesus Christ established.
When we were Protestant, we used to base our choice of Protestant church on the people in the church. As long as the doctrine wasn’t way off, we could tolerate bad doctrine. Same for music, traditions, etc. But the people were always the deciding factor. If you are surrounded by great people, you can put up with a lot of junk.
Unfortunately, nowadays the church people aren’t always so great. I think that two decades of “meeting my needs” philosophy has led to Protestants who are rude and self-centered, who don’t care two figs for what happens to their pewmate or anyone else. Nowadays the thinking is, “So you’re not happy in our church? So you don’t fit in here? Well, get out. We don’t need you. Go find another church.”
How very sad and unloving. This philosophy had tragic results for my husband and I, as we were asked to leave our Protestant Church after several years of good service. It was terrible, and our two daughters have not been involved with a church since that day. They don’t trust any church.