I would like to get some clarification just so I'm 100% sure on the "official" teaching of the Church on this. I'm going to try to be as "family friendly" as I can but due to the nature of the question please don't read on if you don't want to.
I'm married and before I started practicing as a Catholic I had a vasectomy. I've confessed it and while in many ways I regret it, I've accepted it.
My question...I know the Church teaches that I should only "finish" sex inside my wife due to being open to life. Since I'm no longer able to "make babies" anyway is this still a requirement?
I believe the other part of finishing in this way is to promote unity with my wife, which I'm for, however this rule is causing some issues between my wife and I. She would rather I occasionally not finish inside her because it is "messy" and depending on the time and place can be quite a nuisance. It has even (many times) caused us to not have sex.
What she (and I) would like to do (occasionally) is "pull out" at the last moment so its much easier to "clean up" after word. In my opinion this would do much more to bring us closer as husband and wife. In addition, this is not reducing the chances of being open to life as its already not possible.
Thanks for any input. I'm mostly looking for an official Church ruling on this situation but if there is not one than people's opinions are fine.