Not sure if people still remember me. Have not posted here in a long time. Anyway my ex cheated with a much younger girl, got her pregnant, moved out of the house, divorced me and went to live with her. That was 4 years ago.After been married for 10yrs and been together 5 years. All this time I have been on my own. Had issues with the church and left and went to a Born Again Christian Church. Now I am back in the Catholic Church did not have a choice the kids wanted to attend classes to make their first holy communion so I had to go back.
Anyway last year about August 2009 my ex came back to apologise as he and the Young lady broke up. He needed a place to stay so as he was the father of my kids and doing the christian thing I allowed him to come back. During that time he did not make much contribution due to the fact that the Young lady had finished him financially. I gave the relationship the benefit of the doubt. I asked him did he want to go for Counselling or to go to Retrouvaille he avoided those subjects. So I assumed you were not ready. In the mean time what he was doing was saving his money. Leaving me to pay all the bills in the house the only contribution he made was to buy food. Either than that he never contributed for the electricity or towards Satelite Television. It just so happened that after fighting for 4 years over the house he finally signed it over last year. So the house was registered in my name. I was able to fix it up and make it a home. He made no contribution towards these renovations. Then he was hinting that we should sell the house. In this day and age houses are not easy to sell or buy. And also the fact that his name is black listed becoz he cannot pay his debts. But as time went by things were not going right. He was keeping secrets from me. So I did something that we women should never ever do I looked through his phone and found out he was still communicating with the young lady and supporting her financially. After she left him for another married man and broke up another home. He was still paying her medical bills even though they were not together. That was the last straw for me and I had a break down some months ago and ended up in hospital.
Now I am at a point in my life whereby I want to have nothing to do with him. He pitched up at my home 2 weeks ago and was harrassing me and giving me a hard time. He did not want me he did not want the relationship now that I am moving on with my life he cannot handle. Is that fair that becoz we were married that I should tolerate his behaviour. Is it wrong of me to want to close the door on him and move on with my life alone without anybody. For the past 4 years I have lived alone with my 2 kids and never been with anybody. There have been lots of guys interested but I do not want to go down that road again. He had his chance and he blew it so many times. For the past 4 years I cannot even receive communion in church. As I felt becoz I was divorced I was not allowed to receive. Should your ex husband who has never wanted you hold you to ransom becoz his life never worked out the way that he wanted. Now that he is all alone with nothing no money, no house, no young girlfriend on his arm should I be made to suffer.