[quote="Annemariels, post:5, topic:180207"]
They are now married so I don't have to worry about them bringing THAT sin into my home.
It bugs me that I always allow sinners in my home knowing they could contaminate my otherwise perfectly sinless self and family. You would shiver at the riff-raff I have made feel welcome in my home. A group of Goth kids used to stop by and I'd give them a meal and chit chat with them. Underneath their costumes, they were kids yearning for love and validation. And the pierced, tattooed, multi-colored haired girl from Europe who had no place to go when the dorms closed for the holidays a few years ago? I told my daughter to bring her home, and underneath the girl's cool and somewhat freaky appearance, she was just a kid missing her family, needing to feel loved. Oh, and how about the 4-year-old I have been watching free of charge every week on my days off since he was born. His sinful unwed young mother earns $9 an hour and struggles to make ends meet. His "father" told his mother to get an abortion - he has never seen the child, might not even know he exists. Want more examples?
Thank you for your prayers. I do have a hard time turning sinners away. It's good that all of you are masters at only allowing perfect people in your homes.
I am not sure where the sin is in wearing goth clothing or being the child of a single mother?
There is a difference between allowing a sinner (all of us) in your home and allowing the sin in your home. For example it is okay to invite a thief into your home, but it is not okay to allow him to steal while he is there. Letting the cohabitating couple in, to stay, was not the problem, it was in allowing the sin itself to come with them.
That is a very touchy situation, and I think if you look at it as an opportunity to show a good example rather than looking at is as being rude by asking them to stay in separate rooms, it might make it easier to tell them.You're doing them a favor! While the whole world is telling them it is okay to cohabitate, who is telling them it is not? Who is giving them that message? Not a lot of people!
I once had a conversation with a friend of mine that illustrates a similar situation. It is 100% true, I kid you not.
She said she wondered when her 14 year old daughter was ready to have sex. "Who decides?" she asked. "I guess her boyfriend does." After I gasped out loud I said, "Everyone in her life is telling her it is okay to have sex. Her boyfriend, her school, her doctor, and now her mother. Who is giving her permission to say no? NO ONE!"
It is a very similar situation. Do your sister a favor, and expect more of her. For her sake AND for yours.