I have a co-worker who has become a very close friend. She is currently engaged to a wonderful man. This past year, however, she has grown close to another guy at work. I am friends with this guy, too, and in the beginning it was quite innocent, but now even she realizes things have gotten out of hand.
I see her at a crossroads and she has many times asked for my advice and help, but I don’t know what to say. I can see how she opened herself to this…her fiancee really is the sweetest man I have ever known, but he is a real softy…not the agressive or strong personality at all. Apparently he also has a big money problem (lying about debt, bad money management).
The guy she’s falling in love with has his own set of problems. I don’t want to judge him as he’s my friend, but he could definitely grow up more…e.g. he’s in college and doesn’t know where his life is going.
It’s tearing me up to see her in so much grief. Personally I think she is out of love with both of them, or rather neither one is good for her. I know a lot of people on this thread will suggest she “offer it up” “pray to be strong” etc but isn’t there some solution? I mean, I’m engaged and friends with this guy, too, and I am perfectly committed to my df. Does it mean they’re not meant to be???