I agree with you that some of the shows that seem quite innocent on the surface are much more dangerous and immoral than the blatently immoral shows.
Coach is a good example. There are many other shows where couples co-habit or sleep together even though they’re not married. Many shows and movies portray couples in bed at the end of their first date. Ai yi yi!
I think a porn movie is actually better than shows like Coach, because in a porn movie, the sex is portrayed so blatently and offensively that anyone can discern that what is happening is evil! But in “decent-looking” TV shows like Coach, **the exact same thing is happening as occurs in the porn movie, ** only it’s so whitewashed that we all just sit and stare at it and absorb it into our brains and eventually lose our shock over it and think how sweet it is when two people love each other and have sex even though they’re not married. Ick! It’s not sweet at all, it’s mortal sin!
Another example of pure trash is Everybody Loves Raymond. When my daughter was a young teenager, she summed it up perfectly: “All they do is fight loudly about sex, and when Ray wants sex from his wife, she bashes stupid men and tells her husband what a selfish pig he is.”
My parents-in-law love this show and talk about how “decent” and “Christian” it is. Yet, they argue and fight and pick at each other all the time. I can’t help but wonder if they learned this destructive behavior from watching Ray and his wife!
Why not just watch Richard Burton and Liz Taylor rip each other to shreds in Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? Again, it’s the same thing as what happens in Everybody Loves Raymond, but it isn’t all saccharinized and sweet–it’s horrible and even a kid can tell that these people are destroying each other with their arguing and insults and screaming. Arguing between a couple isn’t funny at all, ever.
I think the show Will and Grace did so much damage in the U.S. by making homosexuals “normal” and “charming.” A lot of people criticize Saturday Night Live, but that show at least portrays some very un-flattering viewpoints of homosexuals, which may sound “mean” but the message comes across loud and clear on * SNL *that “homosexuals are NOT normal.” (Interesting that so many real-life homosexuals are involved with the production of SNL.)
I really dislike a lot of the ethnic shows that portray African Americans as rich, hyper, twitchy, over-sexed, silly, loud, and usually fashionable to the extreme. I really like shows that just portray African Americans as normal, e.g., Jonas on The Unit.
And my biggest gripe of all is the way children are portrayed on TV as wise-cracking miniature grown-ups who conveniently disappear when the real grown-ups want to have sex. If our children acted like the children on TV, they would be called “brats.” Why not just portray NORMAL children who fuss and can’t pronounce certain words, and never-to-seldom say anything really clever and don’t always look like they walked out of a beauty salon?
I think that so many show business people are so far removed from “normal” life that they think EVERYONE is doing it the way they write it.
I remember reading a study years ago that proved the women who watch soap operas actually talk (in real-life) to their husbands the way the soap-opera women talk to their men–fascinating study! I wish I had kept the paper. I personally think that as we watch white-washed trash, we “absorb” it into our psyche’s and become very tolerant of sin.
If people are going to watch TV, I think they need to constantly remind themselves of the real world. They need to say, “That couple sleeping together outside of marriage is committing mortal sin.” “Real children don’t have the vocabulary of those TV children.” “Men are NOT stupid and their brain is NOT between their legs.” “If a murder like this occurred in real life, it probably wouldn’t be solved within a few days.” “African Americans aren’t hyper.” “Homosexuality is not God’s plan for human beings.”
I remember attending a Protestant seminar on TV viewing where the speaker urged us to yell at our TVs–“Who are you kidding!!!”
I do think, though, that we shouldn’t throw out the whole TV. I think there are some good shows that portray a wholesome, realistic view of life, that draw clean lines between good and sin, and even manage to include God and church.
And of course, there’s football and figure skating–two good reasons to watch TV!