I feel trapped on one hand I am doing what appears to me a good thing in offering a roof over the head of a vulnerable woman who has avoidant personality disorder on the other hand it is upsetting my ‘godmother’ (who gets v angry with me she is 93 and I visit her as a friend but she treats me horribly on this issue).
On my confirmation day my godmother made quite a scene saying ‘I’m not sitting next to that girl’ when she was supposed to sit next me and now she says she isn’t my godmother then she’s nice to me I drive her home start talking about things kindly her she brings this subject up again and again.
She and another woman from church actually arranged for me to put the woman in my home. We did sin initially (but never intercourse) but I kept confessing and trying to work towards a solution , I even proposed thinking a quick marriage would be the answer because I became v fond of her.
But because of her bipolar problems she doesn’t know what she wants in life she is even seeing someone else now, we do t have sex or sleep in the same room and out priest has always absolved us.
She is looking to buy a home but she has very limited funds and no job, I can’t just send her back home to her parents because her parents are split and do not support her properly and live abroad. I just hope she can find a place quickly though I worry for her as she can’t look after herself .
After what my godmother said I feel v upset (again) upsetting for everyone I will miss when she leaves I really thought marriage was the solution but she doesn’t want this
Previously I had lived virtually all my adult life alone and after this I think I will continue it is hard for me to socialise , so to find this womam who likes me only to find she likes other men too is a let down.
Can you please pray that she finds her independence, and overcomes her avoidant personality problems etc.
Also Is it ok for me to still receive the Eucharist I am receiving it because I am not having sex ie I am celebate.
Ps I won’t give up on my godmother who is 93 I am picking her up on Sunday to take her to church, she actually phoned me this morning to apologise for her outburst, no one else has been so against her living in the same house, she is a traditionalist i respect her views but she looses it entirely and feels like she’s trying g to take me over, even the priests are not telling me off), perhaps someone can pray for her too.