Well, here we go. Appointments are rolling along with our fertility doctor. (No, don't worry, I would never utilize any methods that were forbidden by my beloved Church).
One thing that's concerning is that it would be a shame to put me on fertility drugs like Clomid (which are not forbidden, just to clarify) if it turned out that my husband's gametes were not as healthy as they could be. It could cause a lot of frustration and heartbreak, and we might have been barking up the wrong tree, so to speak. The fertility center understands my faith and boundaries, but in their purely medical opinion, the man's contribution to fertility should be tested just to make sure there's enough information.
I think we're all familiar with the usual way, sadly, that men collect their genetic material in medical settings. This is clearly prohibited for Catholics. I thought I remembered reading a long, long time ago about special "Catholic condoms" that were perforated and designed to collect some of this material but allow for the possibility of life as well. Is that real? Did I fall for a hoax? If such a thing is permissible, are they special condoms that I have to obtain somewhere, or - sorry to be crass - can I make my own by poking holes in a condom with a sewing pin?
I have tried asking local Catholic experts on sexuality and fertility and have met with mostly horrified looks and gotten no answers. Google searches of the terms "Catholic" and "condom," as you can well understand, lead down a scary rabbit hole. I honestly and truly would appreciate any concrete knowledge that anyone has - especially from couples who have followed the Theology of the Body during infertility treatment!