I'm at the end of my rope, and would appreciate your thoughts and helpful input. :)
Our oldest dd (age 21) has moved home after being away at college out of town for the past 2 years. She now attends college here in town, works two jobs, has her own car and pays for most of her own expenses. Basically my husband and I only provide her with food and a place to live until she finishes school. She has been very responsible in following house rules, and is very helpful especially with her younger siblings, getting them to school, activities, running errands etc. whenever she can. So what's the problem?
It's not with her Dad and I, but with her relationship with her younger siblings. They are dd(20), dd(18), ds(16), ds(13), and dd(9). I see at times that the oldest tends to be bossy to the others, but she has always been that way, and she's trying very hard to change this behavior. However, the younger sibs (not really the 9-yo though) seem to be on a mission to oust her from the house by saying cruel things to her and making her feel generally unwelcome in our own home. It's one thing to deal with sibling rivalry when they're young children, but it's difficult to deal with such animosity when they get to be this age! When they are bigger, their fights get bigger. We've had family meetings over this which settles things for a while, but it doesn't take much to start another flareup.
I just feel so sad that they can't seem to get along and say such hurtful things to each other. :( Has anyone had a similar situation? How did you deal with it?