OK, I’m really starting to have a problem with some of my friends. My boyfriend and I have been together for nine months, yet my friends have not met him yet(they will at prom) due to distance, so it’s natural that they would be curious about him. However, some of their curiosity is starting to offend me. Here’s why.
As a Catholic, I’m always questioned about my decision not to have sex, or even make out until I get married. I’m also questioned about my decision not to use birth control even when I’m married (only NFP). Now that I have a boyfriend, all of the questioning is getting worse. People feel like they have a right to know all about my private life. They ask me if I’ve been kissed, tell me that I should kiss him at prom, they assume that my desire for a big family is rooted in lust (some comments I have received have turned me five shades of purple), and they joke about us having a raunchy sex life. Then they feel like they have a right to tell us about everything we’re doing “wrong” (like not talking for five hours every night, long distance phone calls are EXPENSIVE and we are both very busy, also, that I should go to his prom, even though I can’t afford to make the trip and have beat myself up about it but he told me mine sounded better anyway) I never tell them anything that I don’t agree with in their relationships, I don’t even mention their relationships in conversation, and my boy and I have been together for a lot longer than some of them. I wish they would just respect my boundaries, I don’t like talking about too much personal stuff. What should I do?